Dear cacool,
Jon Daddysman is correct but there is something else that has been happening to me which seems to be causing the same symptoms as you described:
I have had 3 versions of ZoneAlarm on my computer one after the other, when I was on the 2nd one, and until I upgraded to the latest version a few days ago, the dialup window would come up at startup.
I am very careful and I never tick the box that says "Connect Automatically" and I can then just click CANCEL.
Since I upgraded to the latest (Free) version I have not had any problems and the symptoms that you describe have disappeared.
It may be the same for you or not.
It is quite likely that Jon has already solved it with his answer but just in case I
thought I would chip in with my ha'pennysworth...
Regards Jim
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