Hi Dennis,
I have had alot of experience with the smtp dameon in raptor, I have two raptor 6.5 firewalls that I administer, and one 7.0 on WIN2k, first things first, has your firewall been loaded with the bugfix for using sp6a?
I`n guessing yes as its 6.5.3, and not just 6.5.He`s an except from the release notes anyway:
CAUTION: It is recommended that you use Microsoft NT 4.0 Service Pack 5 with the Raptor Firewall V6.5 and PowerVPN Server V6.5. Service Pack 4 is still supported with this release. Service Pack 6A is also supported but has been found to have a bug, reference #Q254930, that can interfere with the performance of your Raptor product causing packets to remain in a FIN_WAIT state. If you want to use Service Pack 6A, a work-around for this problem is included in the product kit.
There are also alot of patches for the firewall available, they are very hard to find though, I had to go to a chinese Symantec site to get them, though I can`t remember if there is a patch for the smtpd, I know there is one for the dnsd, ftpd, cifsd, pingd tcpap_gsp and udp_gsp, to name a few.
As far as I know, you should not have to "wake up" the smtp dameon, this is achived by enabling the smtp dameon in the proxy services, which you would have done, it works as a simple clear transfer agent, and is not much more intelligent than that.
Sometimes the proxy services don`t work correctly given the sheer load, give the box a reboot to fix this.
One of the firewalls I have transfers around 10,000 emais a day, but this started to produce Dr Watson errors and freeze up.
To get around this, I had to point smtp traffic through a newer box using WIN2k and raptor 7.0, I have had no problems with the new box.
Hope my babble helps.