Remember that Nortel is a Canadian company. In Canada, PBXs are permitted to send end-to-end Station Data over the PSTN. In other words, you could call your house and it will show "3rd Floor Conf Rm" (really, really cool). This is not permitted in the US. That is why you're seeing their name/number data, because the switch is set up to send it in case its in Canada (the US LECs strip it and replace with a lookup based on the number). Now, you should NOT see if they make a connection w/ you, then xfer the call. It shouldn't update.
Now, the other direction (To the Nortel). You won't be able to have Name delivery. Thats part of my "25.40b" statement above. Nortel permitted Name delivery on NI2 with 25.40b software (granted it was buggy as hell). Prior to that, they will strip the data, as they won't understand how to display it.
BUT, just for the heck of it, you can try in the RCAP section of the DCH programming (Nortel-speak for "Remote Capabilities" and "D-Channel"), entering "NDS" (Name Display Svcs). If you have 25.40b and the appropriate feature pkg, it will take that. If not, experiment with "ND2" and "ND3", but I doubt those will work.
Hope this helps...
Kris G.