There are some things to remember about hard drives. Whether or not you use them, as long as they are on, they are spinning. Anywhere from 3600 rpm to 7200+ rpm.
The heads never really touch the drives. They are literaly a hair's breadth from the disk. They "float" over the disk but never really touch it like cassette player heads touch the tape.
There are two places where the damage most likely would occur. The actuator, the arm that the head is attached to and the drive bearings. The arm most move very rapidly back and fourth during reading and writing sessions. Defraging actually helps prevent rapid movement since, supposedly, the data is more aligned.
The bearings on the disks get the most wear and tare during the boot process since the disk must start from 0 rpm to maximum rpm in a matter of seconds.
How do heads get damaged? From "stiction." (A combination of friction and sticking.) This is most likely to occur when a disk drive has been on a long time then gets shut down. The internal heat can cause the heads to weld to the disk when it stops. The spinning drive provides air flow to keep the head off the disk during use. If the drive is suddenly stopped, the head can touch the hot disk and stick to it. Luckily, most hard drives automatically park their heads even if they have no power.
Roughly bumping a hard drive can also cause the heads to hit the disk.
Here's bit of trivia for you, old (1980's) hard drive platters where made from burnished metal oxide, a.k.a. rust.
James P. Cottingham
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