PCLine:
I give cops gratuities all the time. The last time, as I recall, was late February of this year.
I was at a Mardi Gras parade on a warm day, and police in my area wear dark-colored uniforms. I had an ice chest containing more bottles of water than I could drink, so I gave one to a cop who was obviously uncomfortable in the heat. We chatted a couple of minutes, then I went on my way.
I had given the cop a gratuity. It was a gift given with no strings attached. It was merely an
attempt engender a positive opinion of me in the cop's mind. Sure, the gratuity cost me nearly nothing -- but it is a gratuity nonetheless.
What did I expect to get out of it? Nothing. But suppose a fight had broken out on that parade route right next to me, and I had gotten mixed up in the resultant chaos. Then suppose that the same cop was one of those who waded into the crowd to break things up. He questions me, and I tell him I was not involved, but just a bystander who was enveloped by the donnybrook, but my testimony is rebutted by another witness who says he saw me throw a punch.
If my gratuity positively affected the cop's attitude toward me, he is more likely to believe me than the witness.
Contrast this to my offering the cop a bottle of water after the fight, his getting the water contigent on his letting me go. This would be a bribe.
A gratuity attempts to engender positive goodwill. A bribe is a contractual transaction of value for an action.
All:
The line between gratuities and bribes gets blurred when the item is of a sufficiently high value. It is natural that if the item you received is very valuable relative to your personal wealth, you would feel
obligated to act in a manner favorable to the potential supplier.
And it is the concept of obligation that differentiates a gratuity from a bribe. Even if the laptop is a gratuity, freely given without definite expectation of a reciprocal action on your part, its value would make you feel that it is a bribe.
No one, I believe, would have any qualms about accepting a plastic pen from a sales reptile. It can be freely accepted without its feeling like you are
required to reciprocate. Make that pen a Mont Blanc, and then the situation begins to change. Make it a $2000 laptop, and the situation has changed tremendously. (Unless you're as rich as Bill Gates -- he might just say, "Thanks! Could you put it in that closet with all the other ones?"
However, if the laptop is given to the company, the wealth of the company is large enough that the addition of the laptop is not enough to make anyone feel obligated.
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