It is generally called "Disconnect supervision" - they have it but you haven't gotten to someone who understands. Easy to test at NID with butt set and meter. Put meter across tip & ring in DC volt mode, make a call and have far end hang up on you. Meter should drop to 0 volts for 500ms. If no drop, carrier is not providing disc supervision. Hound and harangue them until they do, as it's the only way out with analog lines.