Problems with AOL and Flash detect script

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Hello all,
I've just recently discovered that AOL does not like Flash or Javascript and I need some help please.

I have a frameset with 3 frames. frame 1 is a flash banner
frame 2 is a nav, frame3 is the mainframe for content.
I was using this js function to have my nav change the flash banner in frame1 and the content in frame2. I'm not to good with coding so if there is something up with this please fill me in. The javascript works fine in IE and Netscape but it craps out when viewed thru AOL browser.

function changeframe(url)
{
parent.topFrame.location="shell2.html";
parent.mainFrame.location=url;
}

and my buttons generally look like this:
<A HREF=&quot;javascript:changeframe('chef.html')&quot; onMouseOut=&quot;MM_swapImgRestore()&quot; onMouseOver=&quot;MM_swapImage('chefNorm','','gfx/sideNav/images/buttons/chefOver.gif',1)&quot;><img src=&quot;gfx/sideNav/images/buttons/chefNorm.gif&quot; border=&quot;0&quot; alt=&quot;&quot; name=&quot;chefNorm&quot; width=&quot;83&quot; height=&quot;12&quot;></a><br>

I included the mouseout and mouseover cos I don't know where the problem lies.

OKAY,MY OTHER QUESTION IS...I am using a flash movie that detects for flash player version 4 or 5 and in AOL, the detect page takes forever to load. It works fine in IE and Netscape. So, the little flash detect movie takes forever to load but the intro flash movie which is 196k does not seem to have a problem.

IS IT ME OR IS IT AOL?????? please help, I'm going crazy

much thanks and happy holidays