==> remove the word sometimes, and we are in complete agreement
In other words, "The journey is more important than the destination".
An interesting ideal, but how true is it? How accurately does that ideal reflect the world in which we live? And if not, is that the lesson we want to teach?
Above, reference was made to a football game with a score of 91-0. Note that the immediate focus is on the destination - the final score is the outcome, not the journey. Why did a team lose 91-0? Because they were bullied by the better team? Apparently not. Perhaps it's because the losing team didn't teach and work on fundamentals; perhaps they didn't engage in physical conditioning; perhaps they didn't teach and learn the value of teamwork; perhaps they didn't even practice. In other words, that team lost because they weren't paying enough attention to the journey. I don't know, but perhaps it's because they didn't appreciate where that journey was to take them. The immediate response is to be critical of the winning team; whereas, it may very well be likely that the losing team, by failing to seriously engage in their journey is largely responsible for this debacle. It's wrong to criticize the winning because they're taking their journey seriously when their opponent has chosen not to. Jumping to conclusions based on the outcome of one game is probably not the best response.
Nor do I believe that it's true that "No one gains anything from something like this." When the score is 91-0, granted, something went wrong, but we must first understand just what it was that went wrong. Everyone can learn from discovering and addressing just whatever that may be, from a possible unfair distribution of talent to an inadequate selection of coaches and teachers, and who knows what in between. Anytime, every time, there is a problem, there is an opportunity to learn. It may not be lesson you think it is, nor may it be towards who you think needs the lesson, but there is always something there for someone to learn.
Yes, learning how to lose is a very important lesson to learn, because in life, you probably lose more often than you win. Let's not underestimate the value of how you respond after a loss. What you do after a loss is very important, and arguably (another discussion, another time), more important than what you do after a win.
When you enroll is a class, whether it be first grade or a graduate level course, is the journey more important than the destination? The journey is going to class, doing the assignments, doing the homework, picking up and learning things along the way, but at the end of the day, your grade is based not on how hard you worked or how dedicated you were, but whether or not you learned the required material or developed the necessary skills. Your report card or transcript doesn't reflect your journey; it reflects whether or not you met the goal. You don't pass the class or are promoted to the next grade unless you reach the destination.
When you are given a support task at fix a customer's problem, the customer is not all that interested in your journey. The customer wants to know if you reached the destination. Have you fixed the problem?
Your boss may take an interest in the things you do, how hard you work, if your taking extra courses, and so forth and that's wonderful, but in the final analysis, your paycheck is based on the destination. Are you getting the job done?
It's nice to learn new efficient and clever programming techniques, but when you fire it up, does the program work?
When you take your car to a mechanic, what's your concern? The mechanic's journey or the mechanic's results?
How many of us are interested in the wild ride that is journey of the Affordable Care Act (ACA)? Or are we more concerned with the end results of the ACA? Does it work and provide the intended services?
No one is saying the journey is not important, On the contrary, the journey is important and there is much to learn along the way, but it's the destination that directs the journey. There would be no journey without a destination. It's a commitment to the destination that keeps you on that journey; otherwise, the journey has no direction. Whether you're talking sports, hobbies, education, careers, fun activities, or actually traveling for that matter, the purpose of a journey is get from point A to point B. You need both, but a journey without a destination is wandering aimlessly. You can't aim if you don't have target.
I will grant that many advocate a position where you don't keep score, there are no grades, there are no performance evaluations, and so ever fails to reach a destination. No one ever loses. It's a wonderful ideal, but then no ever finishes, and there are no winners either. There is nothing to earn, and so, there is no accountability either. That's just ... easy. Nevertheless, give me a reward for participating, I'm entitled to at least that.
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