MX 2004 makes no difference.
Part of what you're seeing is a perception problem.
That is, once you click on the services button on the home page, you immediately go to the services page - it is no longer the same button - it's a similar button on a different page.
There are several things you can do.
Ignore it.
Make down the default appearance for the services button (while on the services page), and apply that appearance to each of the other buttons while on their respective pages. (Usually I disable the button while on its own page, but you need not do that.) (You could also have the hover state be the opposite for the current page, but first things first).
There are other ways, too.
Greg
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