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KellyK

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Mar 28, 2002
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I apologize as this might not be the best board for this question, but I couldn't find one more appropriate. This afternoon I had an incident with my leader which has left me asking what to do next. I am the manager of a small reporting team for a company which has several reporting teams. For the past year, I have participated on a project team which is discussing the possibility of centralizing our reporting functions into one team and reporting up through one VP. Currently, I report to the VP of Finance for my division. Other reporting teams report through Customer Service, others through Sales, etc. While giving my boss an update on the project, I made the comment "at the end of the day, it doesn't matter to whom I report," and as soon as it flew out of my mouth I realized that's not what I meant to say, so I added a weak "as long as they are a supportive leader, such as yourself." We spent the next several minutes discussing the project benefits, risks, etc. When he left my office, he said "Well, the only thing I take away from this conversation is that you don't care who you report to," as he made an exaggerated sad pout and walked away. I knew he was kidding, but quite honestly, my boss has been a godsend to me. He is the reason I have not packed up my desk and jumped ship. He has supported me through a number of personal development opportunities, including funding a leadership program for me that is not fully supported by HR. In other words, he's stuck his neck out for me and has been amazing. I am the most junior member of our group, and he has always treated me as an equal and respected my work. After our discussion, I made copies of the presentation file that our group was going to take to the executive committee and left a copy of the presentation on my boss's desk with the note "To the best boss EVER!" He called me up and we had a good laugh and he said "it's too late to suck up now, the damage is done." Now I am probably putting way too much thought into this and should just move on, but I feel awful. My question is this: is there an appropriate way to let my boss know how much I value his leadership? Would a letter be coming on too strong? A card? I realize there is a Hallmark holiday for "Bosses Day" which just passed, but some other recognition would be more genuine. Or should I just let it drop and try to watch what I say in future conversations?

Kelly
 
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I would have a private talk with him and Point out your appreciation for all that he has done for you and let him know just how much he has helped you. Rarely do bosses get to hear the positive stuff all they hear is the whining and complaining.

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Let him read what you just wrote here and I think he will like you even more.

Christiaan Baes
Belgium

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It sounds like you have a good working relationship with him and that you are respected and liked well-enough to joke around with. I would imagine he isn't really giving it much thought - other than to rib you a bit.

You probably don't need to do anything. However, approach him after a week or so and just re-iterate that you misspoke and did not want it in any way to be misconstrued.

Matthew Moran
Read my career blog at: Career Blog: Todo esta bien.. Todo esta divertido (it's all good, it's all fun)
 
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