If you can't put referential integrity in, it means that there is at least one entry in the many table that isn't present in the one side of the relationship.
The easiest way is to use a quick wizard generated query to find out the missing entry/entries and add them, then put the integrity in.
Another way is to copy the tables to some other name, delete all the data from both, set the integrity and then copy and paste the data back in, or use an Insert query to transfer it over. This will get you everything except the non matching data.
John